Every day when you first get up, do you set your mind for success? Many people will smile at you in passing and say, “Hey, how are you?” Your answer might be, “Just fine.” Yet, inside you really wish you could say what you are thinking or how you are feeling. Some days might be just fine or even great, but lately it seems people are saddened by the effects of our economy or the pressures of finances, work, or family dilemmas.

In transition of classes recently, a student was playing with his book bag and tied his straps around his wrists. He looked at me and said, “Look, Dr. Rogers, my hands are tied.” My first thought was, “How many times as a child or an adult do we feel like our hands are tied?” Whether dealing with others, our job, or family situations; there always seems to be a time when we feel as though we are in bondage and the choices we make seem more gigantic than they probably should.

In friendships, young people are constantly stuck in he said-she said situations where no matter what is actually said; there are times when being caught in the middle seems impossible to escape from hurting another one’s feelings. When a person feels as though their hands are tied, there seems to be a no-win situation; yet a choice must be made. When a person feels hopeless in making the right decision, they sometimes seek advice from a family member, close friend, or an informative book or resource.

In work, many people often feel bound to their job and the duties entailed whether they are happy or passionate about what they do or not. With limited experience or degrees, many people feel they are not able to seek various types of employment. Yet, with the economy the way it is today, many people also feel as though it is impossible to find a good job regardless of one’s credentials, experience, or capabilities. Therefore, many people may feel “stuck” in a position, yet happy to have work.

In dealing with a family, work, friends, and daily responsibilities at home; it seems as though time can be a person’s biggest enemy. Individuals who are very busy may feel overwhelmed by life’s pressures and need a chance to breathe in order to think more logically before moving on to the next task. No matter what is binding your hands together, find a way to become organized, responsible for your actions, honest with others and forgiving. Some stress can be relieved by simply allowing others to help or saying you’re sorry if you fail to meet every obligation. Breaking the chains of confusion, letting go of excuses, and having the right attitude in regards to life and your happiness is a great start towards feeling successful.

Dr. Sonya Rogers is a certified counselor who lives in Daphne.

Her column regularly appears in the Daphne Bulletin and Spanish Fort Sun.