Connecting with people is paramount when expecting success in communicating with others. What many people do not realize is that communication goes far beyond words.

The act of face-to-face communication contains three main components: a person’s words, his or her body language, and one’s tone of voice. The way a person speaks and conveys a message is just as important as what words are meant to be expressed. Therefore, it is wise to become cognizant of how one thinks and behaves when presenting information.

When speaking to an individual or group, if one doesn’t demonstrate passion or concern for what he or she is speaking about, it is easy to lose the listener’s interest. If you fail to express a sense of desire to share dialogue with an enthusiastic nature, people will somewhat become disconnected and a breakdown in communication could result. This is why it is keen to expand your range of expression, move with a sense of purpose, and maintain an open posture when speaking to others.

Isn’t it amazing how people might comprehend what you say, but they definitely tend to remember the attitude you displayed while speaking. I have heard many people say President Obama is a “good speaker.” Yet, I wonder, do those same people really believe the words or message he is presenting. Do they buy into his proposals, ideologies, and initiatives, or do they simply fall for the image he appears to represent? 

I’ve also heard people state the theory that it is better to win someone’s heart first; then you can usually win their minds. You must begin with something you share in common. Search for opportunities to spend quality time together. Most important, practice remembering people’s names. This is sometimes a downfall for many people. Faces are generally much easier to remember.

When speaking before small or large groups, it is obvious that influencing others takes much time, patience and energy. It doesn’t happen in a matter of minutes. Whether speaking to coworkers, family members, or even strangers, remember the importance of being prepared in what you will say. Use integrity as your guide. Ensure that there is relevance to your subject stated.

Also, create value to your words, and apply yourself in order to make a positive difference in the various lives of others. Instructors, preachers and politicians understand the significance of preparing their speeches, giving selflessly, and recharging when their energy level or knowledge base feels exhausted.

Connecting with others is the key to building great relationships.

Dr. Sonya Rogers is a certified counselor who lives in Daphne.

Her column regularly appears in The Bulletin.