While we are in the winter months, the thought of snowmen just melt our hearts! Young newborns coming into a family by birth or adoption do the same thing with grown-ups.

But how do young brothers and sisters react to the entrance of a new baby into the family? After discussing this with several moms who have recently had their second or third child come into the family, I’d like to share some tips with families on making this transition easier.

• When you tell your young child about the new arrival on his or her way, make it a special time. If your young children are at different ages or have different personalities, address each child separately about the good news. There are many books and videos that can help a parent prepare young children with the addition of a young brother or sister.
• Have your children visit friends and family with other siblings who have welcomed a new baby into the family. Let your child ask them questions and observe in their play with family and friends how they accept an addition into the family.
• Have your young children help you prepare the room and home for the new baby. Involve them in decision-making and what they can do in helping to welcome the baby. With very young children, prepare far ahead if it means this young child will need to move to a new bed, possibly wean in physical needs, and will be facing other major physical and developmental needs like “potty” training.
• If a new baby is brought in by birth or adoption, include young brothers and sisters in the process — whether it is waiting for a baby to be born at the hospital or being with his or her family in welcoming a new family member at an adoption agency.
• After the baby comes home, set aside one-on-one time with each sibling. Include brothers and sisters in the baby’s care, which includes baths, dressing, strolling and carrying a diaper bag. Safety is the No. 1 concern here.
• Remind visiting family and friends to pay attention to your older child as well as the baby.

Beth Pinyerd lives in Daphne and serves as director of younger children at Faith Family Fellowship in Spanish Fort.

Her column appears regularly in The Bulletin.