Taking control of one’s life is paramount to “getting a grip” on things so that success becomes a result of your actions; instead of failure.

Before setting out to conquer any goal in business or within the family, one must first search from within. Sometimes life seems like one long obstacle course, and before we can jump the hurdles we must first get our head on straight. Self-discipline requires lots of preparation to do what is right, not what always feels good at the time. For example, singers and runners train daily to keep their vocal cords and bodies in shape. They aren’t like the dieters that tell themselves, “Oh, I can surely eat what I want today!”

As adults, modeling what you want young people to do requires continuous commitments to doing the right thing even when it hurts! Self-discipline demands hard work, persistence, time management, and a positive attitude. Whether a singer, a runner, or a student in college, training is an on-going process that isn’t always easy. Hard work entails doing the things you should, when you should. In comparison to people who try to wean themselves from drinking coffee; if you possess an unhealthy habit, begin developing small ways to discipline yourself today. It will pay off tomorrow! Think of areas in your life that lack discipline. Then, think of resources that can assist you in conquering your battle. Follow the lifestyle of others who model the trait you wish to possess. After you have successfully conquered your goal, celebrate the victory!

When making plans, it is important to have good thoughts, creative ideas, and great intentions, but they must be translated into action. Find a way to organize your plans.

Start by setting priorities in your life. Take the time to finish each endeavor by order of importance. Next, place your plans on a calendar and remember to allow time for the unexpected! This is difficult for most people. It is wise to tackle one project at a time. Make sure your workspace is orderly and your resources are within reach.

It is vital that adults model responsibility so that children understand the importance of taking pride in who they are and what they do.

At some point in life, you must examine yourself and determine what areas must undergo change to make you a better person and a better example for those who follow you.

There are many great leaders who have set remarkable examples for everyone to follow. For example, Abraham was considered the father of the Hebrews. The nation of Israel and the fulfillment of God’s plan began with Abraham and his family.

This hero was very trusting of God. However, for most of us, we want what we want, when we want it.

Abraham was patient and after 10 years of waiting, his dreams came true. God was not only his teacher, but his friend and strength. Even though his patience was tested, he knew God’s time was best. Later, he received a vision; then a son, the answer to his prayers.

As adults, children must trust in you to make wise decisions. Even though you are not perfect, children expect you to guide them, support them and ensure safety for their well being.

As an adult, you must teach children to think before they act, to respect others, to demonstrate pride and courtesy, and to practice honesty at all times. In a rapidly changing world, it is critical that all adults look beyond adversity and feelings of inadequacy to seek their greater purpose in life.

Dr. Sonya Rogers is a certified counselor who serves as an English instructor for Daphne Middle School and Faulkner State Community College.

Rogers’ column runs twice a month, exclusively in the Daphne Bulletin and on BaldwinCountyNow.com.